We reached out to Munchkins in a desperate attempt to get some help with our two-year-old son’s sleeping (or lack thereof). They recommended Timann because she too has two active little boys, one of which is a similar age to our son.
We first met Timann on Sunday 21 July and from the start she made us feel at ease. She slowly and carefully guided us through what we needed to do and gave us the encouragement we needed when things felt a little tough and overwhelming. She was amazing with our son – calm and kind and caring and he took to her immediately.
Since then – every time we have had any questions, or needed tips or encouragement, Timann has been unwaveringly willing and happy to answer all our (many, many) questions. She has seen us through the ups and downs through this process and we are eternally grateful for her guidance and support!
As a mom with an active, non-stop little boy who is my whole world and who just needed some help with getting him to sleep – I wouldn’t hesitate for a second to recommend her!!
As parents, we all long for our children to be happy, well-adjusted kids. But happiness is something so fleeting and circumstantial. Joy is the emotional homeostasis we are truly trying to achieve. When your child has joy, they don’t sweat the small stuff so much. They are able to weather the storms of life and grow from their failures. Happiness is purely dependent on external factors, which tend to fluctuate up and down through various seasons in our lives. Joy, on the other hand, brings resilience, hope and optimism.
So how do we help our children to find real joy? Here are 7 steps that parents can work on to help their children get there:
Seven years ago, I went in early for an emergency scan. I knew I was pregnant but had strong stabbing pains that made me think it may be an ectopic pregnancy. Turns out it was just my round ligaments taking immense strain at the degree of stretching needed to make space for TWO babies. Twins…TWINS??? My mother is a twin and we have a few sets of triplets in the family too, but I was quite happy in my bubble of “it won’t happen to me”.
Fast forward 7 years and my precious gifts are now 6 and a half. Almost daily I thank God for choosing me to be their mother. But I’ve got to say, I am so very thankful that I was a trained and experienced Parenting Coach (with a background as an Occupational Therapist in paediatrics) before they were born. Otherwise, I may not be loving it half as much as I have been. Having 2 premature newborns, 2 crawling babies, 2 mischievous toddlers etc comes with its challenges, especially when there is an older singleton sibling in the mix. But with some very useful practical parenting tools on my belt, I’ve been absolutely loving it! And today, I would like to share some of what I have learned about these precious creatures.
I first saw Andalene about 8 months after my twins were born almost 4 years ago. At that point, I was just wanting to “win” the whole motherhood thing. Then I realised the person who was losing the most was in fact me. I had all but surrendered to the brain fog and routine.
We looked like we were managing but we were in fact crumbling. Seeing Andalene has given me hope and lifted my spirit. I see that we even small changes my family is more peaceful. We have a long way to go but I am ever so grateful to Andalene for making me listen to reason, for giving me the confidence to do things I hadn’t tried and considered.
My twins will turn four tomorrow and my heart is full of love, excitement and more self-belief than I have had in years. With much appreciation, respect and affection
I’ll certainly spread the word about your wonderful talk and the positive feedback we received from parents after the event.
I had parents stopping me in the parking lot saying how they enjoyed the evening and how beneficial it was. They commented that they would really appreciate and enjoy more talks arranged in the future. We look forward to seeing you soon.
Marjo Prins | Early Learning School Headmistress | Reddam House
‘Tantrums come in various forms, depending on the child’s age, their temperament and the consistency in boundaries within your home,’ explains parenting coach and occupational therapist Celeste Rushby of munchkins.me, a collective of coaches who empower parents to help transform family dynamics for the better. She says that, despite all prospective parents dreading the ‘terrible twos’, tantrums actually begin at between 10 and 18 months.
Let’s begin with a quick quiz!
Which description sounds most like you as a parent?
- I love to cuddle my children, I go out of my way to meet their every need and I tend to indulge them.
- I keep a firm grip on my children and enforce many rules in my home.
- I oversee my children’s lives, teaching them life skills and helping them apply these lessons.
- I support my children in everything they do, but I stand on the sideline and let them take ownership of their own lives.
- I love having fun with my children and spending time with them like I do with my friends.
Can you see yourself in one of these? Are more than one applicable to you?
Most of us have a preferred parenting style – a way of childrearing that comes most naturally to us. Yet, most of us can (and should learn to) adapt our style according to a given situation and our children’s developmental age.
Okay, so let’s unpack the differing styles and see where you fit in most comfortably.
Andalene came to our home when our twins were about 18 months old. I was exhausted and they were terrors. They wouldn’t stay in bed, they would not sleep in the night, they wouldn’t listen to me, they bit each other, they pulled all the keys off my laptop (to list a few things…)
Not only did Andalene give us the tools to put us back in the driver’s seat, she also showed us how much MORE we could expect from our children. How much more capable they were than we had realised and how much they thrive on boundaries, consistency and discipline done in a calm and controlled environment.
They are now confident and happy children that listen to me, eat and sleep well, play alone, play together and are a pleasure to be with. They have their moments, but I know what to do and I KNOW we have peace in our home because of Super Granny, Andalene Salvesen.
I can’t thank you enough!! I don’t know where to begin!!
No.1 – for YOU!! Thank you for the wonderful, bubbly, energetic, motivated, positive woman that you are!! I am SO inspired!! Seeing that our boys are of similar ages, I could totally relate to each story and totally understand and see why the methods you teach, works so so well!! You are AMAZING!!!
No.2 – for the teaching!! It has made SUCH a HUGE difference in Arthur – my 5-year old’s life!! He is SUPER inspired by his Positive Pirate Pete Chart and strives to excel in his Listening Skills every day!! He is super proud and so encouraged, I am totally amazed at how he has improved and how excited he is now to listen to Mom!! :-)
William, being the stronger extrovert, is more of a challenge! He is taking some time to catch onto his brother’s excitement, but he is getting the idea of consequences to bad behavior. He is sleeping better, and like you said, not too keen on his “not so yummy milk” drink at night!
Your advice and guidance has really hit a home run with me! I think the biggest was that I have the permission to parent! As a single parent, there are extra pressure and demands, and feelings of guilt some time, but I remember, that my children needs me to be a good parent! I also believe that God has placed me and my children right here where we are and has sent and placed His Warriors in my life to equip me with the strength and wisdom to raise these boys successfully.
We still have a LOT of fun, I think even more now, because it’s quicker and easier to get from fun and play mode to listen and do mode!! :-)
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! I hope and pray that more parents see the value in the Munchkins work and make use thereof, it is life changing!!
Lots of love and best wishes,
The new school year comes with many stresses for parents (especially the newbies): lunchboxes to pack, school fees to pay, carpools to organise, school uniforms to launder, homework to help with…. and on top of that extra-curricular activities to choose and manage.
The latter troubles many parents due to the pressure these ventures place on our time, finances and sometimes even on the relationship with our children. We may ask, “What is enough or too much? Which activities are essential?”, and this uncertainty only adds to the tension.
Maybe we could simplify the matter. Let’s start by asking why we let our children participate in such activities in the first place?