‘Tantrums come in various forms, depending on the child’s age, their temperament and the consistency in boundaries within your home,’ explains parenting coach and occupational therapist Celeste Rushby of munchkins.me, a collective of coaches who empower parents to help transform family dynamics for the better. She says that, despite all prospective parents dreading the ‘terrible twos’, tantrums actually begin at between 10 and 18 months.
Let’s begin with a quick quiz!
Which description sounds most like you as a parent?
- I love to cuddle my children, I go out of my way to meet their every need and I tend to indulge them.
- I keep a firm grip on my children and enforce many rules in my home.
- I oversee my children’s lives, teaching them life skills and helping them apply these lessons.
- I support my children in everything they do, but I stand on the sideline and let them take ownership of their own lives.
- I love having fun with my children and spending time with them like I do with my friends.
Can you see yourself in one of these? Are more than one applicable to you?
Most of us have a preferred parenting style – a way of childrearing that comes most naturally to us. Yet, most of us can (and should learn to) adapt our style according to a given situation and our children’s developmental age.
Okay, so let’s unpack the differing styles and see where you fit in most comfortably.
Andalene came to our home when our twins were about 18 months old. I was exhausted and they were terrors. They wouldn’t stay in bed, they would not sleep in the night, they wouldn’t listen to me, they bit each other, they pulled all the keys off my laptop (to list a few things…)
Not only did Andalene give us the tools to put us back in the driver’s seat, she also showed us how much MORE we could expect from our children. How much more capable they were than we had realised and how much they thrive on boundaries, consistency and discipline done in a calm and controlled environment.
They are now confident and happy children that listen to me, eat and sleep well, play alone, play together and are a pleasure to be with. They have their moments, but I know what to do and I KNOW we have peace in our home because of Super Granny, Andalene Salvesen.
I can’t thank you enough!! I don’t know where to begin!!
No.1 – for YOU!! Thank you for the wonderful, bubbly, energetic, motivated, positive woman that you are!! I am SO inspired!! Seeing that our boys are of similar ages, I could totally relate to each story and totally understand and see why the methods you teach, works so so well!! You are AMAZING!!!
No.2 – for the teaching!! It has made SUCH a HUGE difference in Arthur – my 5-year old’s life!! He is SUPER inspired by his Positive Pirate Pete Chart and strives to excel in his Listening Skills every day!! He is super proud and so encouraged, I am totally amazed at how he has improved and how excited he is now to listen to Mom!! :-)
William, being the stronger extrovert, is more of a challenge! He is taking some time to catch onto his brother’s excitement, but he is getting the idea of consequences to bad behavior. He is sleeping better, and like you said, not too keen on his “not so yummy milk” drink at night!
Your advice and guidance has really hit a home run with me! I think the biggest was that I have the permission to parent! As a single parent, there are extra pressure and demands, and feelings of guilt some time, but I remember, that my children needs me to be a good parent! I also believe that God has placed me and my children right here where we are and has sent and placed His Warriors in my life to equip me with the strength and wisdom to raise these boys successfully.
We still have a LOT of fun, I think even more now, because it’s quicker and easier to get from fun and play mode to listen and do mode!! :-)
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! I hope and pray that more parents see the value in the Munchkins work and make use thereof, it is life changing!!
Lots of love and best wishes,
The new school year comes with many stresses for parents (especially the newbies): lunchboxes to pack, school fees to pay, carpools to organise, school uniforms to launder, homework to help with…. and on top of that extra-curricular activities to choose and manage.
The latter troubles many parents due to the pressure these ventures place on our time, finances and sometimes even on the relationship with our children. We may ask, “What is enough or too much? Which activities are essential?”, and this uncertainty only adds to the tension.
Maybe we could simplify the matter. Let’s start by asking why we let our children participate in such activities in the first place?
I am so grateful to
My 2.5-year-old was sleeping in the bed with my husband and me, and none of us could get a proper night’s rest no matter what we tried.
Our little girl is now a different person now that she’s getting a solid nights rest and I even have to wake her in the mornings!!
I definitely recommend getting in touch with
“Grandparents” and “grandchildren” are two well-coined terms, as few relationships in life are so “grand” than the one between these two parties. However, for the parents sandwiched in the middle, this connection can sometimes pose “grand” challenges that may even result in conflict between the senior and junior adults.
Yet, if everyone involved is respectful, willing to compromise and able to focus on the privileges of the situation, the grandparent-grandchild bond could greatly enrich all three generations. To help with this, consider following the ABC for grandparents and parents below.
Munchkins / Celeste – there are no words to explain how grateful our family is for having met you. You have honestly changed our lives.
Yes, I was one of those moms that had a 1-year old that needed rocking to sleep and he would wake up throughout the night, sometimes as bad as every hour! I just always put it down to my son being a terrible sleeper. With an entire year of not sleeping, we hit rock bottom. Then my friend introduced me to Munchkins and we met Celeste, this amazing, calm, reassuring, supportive and knowledgeable women (who I basically want to raise my children). She told me there were no such thing as a bad sleeper and she was right. Celeste came in and spent over 3 hours with us and gave us all the tools we needed to implement good sleeping habits as well as discipline techniques for my very independent child. She did the first nap with us and supported me throughout. I was very nervous about sleep training and the idea of my child crying but I promise you, he cried for maybe a total of 4 minutes (and clearly just angry about the whole thing) and he realised things had shifted. It’s now night 3, I’ve just put my baby in his cot, kissed him goodnight and walked out the room and NOT ONE SINGLE PEEP out of him. My child is happier, more patient, calmer, sleeping in later, loving his cot and bedtime. He is like a totally different child. I honestly can’t believe it. Seriously, don’t wait! Get Munchkins in immediately. They are my sleep angels.
– Taryn Lambert
“Thank you for your incredible wealth of knowledge – you are amazing! Best thing you can do is give Celeste a call to help establish health in your family while raising children! Thank you for helping Juliette go to sleep easily, listen to our instruction and enjoy the daily “must do’s.” Her love tank is full, and her frustration is limited as we have been equipped with tools to make us a happy family!” – Crystal Dörr