Imagine you came to a traffic light that flickered red-orange-green-red-orange-green. You’d probably be confused (Should I go or stop!?), and possibly anxious (What if I crash? I may be stuck here forever!).
The same process is likely to happen to our children if they receive mixed signals from their primary caretakers. Just like the faulty robot in the example leaves it up to you to decide when it’s safe to go, your child will also need to figure it out on her own. And “crashing” may be the result.
All of us hate red lights (Just my luck!), but there’s nothing like the stress caused by a broken robot to make us appreciate a light turning red when it needs to. There’s safety in this mechanism. Likewise, there’s protection in receiving clear-cut messages at home – even if it’s “no!”
The new school year comes with many stresses for parents (especially the newbies): lunchboxes to pack, school fees to pay, carpools to organise, school uniforms to launder, homework to help with…. and on top of that extra-curricular activities to choose and manage.
The latter troubles many parents due to the pressure these ventures place on our time, finances and sometimes even on the relationship with our children. We may ask, “What is enough or too much? Which activities are essential?”, and this uncertainty only adds to the tension.
Maybe we could simplify the matter. Let’s start by asking why we let our children participate in such activities in the first place?
“Grandparents” and “grandchildren” are two well-coined terms, as few relationships in life are so “grand” than the one between these two parties. However, for the parents sandwiched in the middle, this connection can sometimes pose “grand” challenges that may even result in conflict between the senior and junior adults.
Yet, if everyone involved is respectful, willing to compromise and able to focus on the privileges of the situation, the grandparent-grandchild bond could greatly enrich all three generations. To help with this, consider following the ABC for grandparents and parents below.
“My kids drive me crazy!”
This is something most of us have said or thought at some point while feeling overwhelmed by the demands of parenting. Yet, many mothers stare more severe psychological problems (particularly postpartum depression) in the face and will need professional help to overcome this obstacle.
As mothers, we should all invest in our mental wellbeing by caring not only for everyone in our family but for ourselves too. In the spirit of Mental Health Awareness Month, let us consider various wellbeing protective mechanisms we should all try to build into our lives.
Being a mother is a beautiful, but often bizarre experience that could at times defy reason. On Planet Parenthood a number of phenomena do not work according to conventional logic. Can you relate to these…?
1. Maths doesn’t add up for mothers.
You spend 80% of your time cleaning and tidying, but your home remains 100% messy.
Just in time for the school holidays, here are some great ideas from Celeste Rushby (Munchkins Coach, Occupational Therapist and mom of three) for helping your young children improve their fine motor skills, while simultaneously getting some much-needed quality time by having fun together! The best part is that most of these activities can be done with very little prep or clean-up, and are mostly made with materials found at home!
We recently received a message from one of our followers to ask our opinion on the type of articles that are claiming that sleeping in a crib can cause brain damage in babies.
Munchkins Coach Celeste Rushby, who is also an Occupational Therapist and mother of 3 (all of which were born very prematurely) answers:
“Love is all you need” may not be too far from the truth when it gets to what children require to grow up soundly (obviously within a healthy environment, together with firm discipline). However, the type of love that each child needs differs from individual to individual and, as a parent, it is important to speak the love language that will resonate most with your child’s primary love language.