Archive for June, 2014

Healthy chocolates 125 ml each – coconut oil, cocoa butter, nut butter (optional) 30 ml raw cacao 62.5 ml honey and/or xylitol to taste 5 ml vanilla Method
  • Melt all the ingredients in a double boiler
  • Pour in mould
  • Drop some coconut, nuts or caramel in the centre of each mould.
  • Pop in the fridge until firm!
  • Enjoy!
Caramel recipe 375 ml of coconut cream/coconut milk or cream 30 ml butter 125 ml  honey Method Boil all the ingredients together on low heat for approximately 30 minutes until golden brown, stirring occasionally  
Here are some lovely holiday ideas from my wonderful daughter in-law Geneva: “I find the kids need to know what they can expect of me in long holidays. I make them tokens. For example: 2 X TV slots, 3X games with mom, 2 X book tokens, maybe a baking token or a craft token. This way the kids can hand me the token when they want to do something-the rest of the time they must entertain themselves (and not drive me crazy asking to do things all day long). Also, during days off from school, I give them extra chores-after which they really seem to enjoy their play time more. This is a great cure for boredom!” Travel Charts Draw a square with four smiley faces in it for every hour you will be travelling. Break the trip down into 15 minute segments. For each 15 minutes they are nice to each other or entertain themselves, they receive a gold star on the smiley face (or just a tick). For every star, they receive, (for instance), 25c to spend on holiday. If they get ALL four in that one hour, you give them a bonus (a few cents extra) The benefits: • They receive encouragement every 12 minutes. • They have an obtainable goal. • They don’t need to keep asking, “Are we there yet?” • They have their own hard-earned money to spend on holiday!

The first step in being a good father is simply showing up. – Unknown.

Children like to feel that you are there, not just in body. Engage in conversation, have some fun, share in their highs and lows of the day. If it feels awkward, ask their mother what they are interested in or what they enjoy doing and begin there.

If you have a special television programme you would like to watch or need to catch up on computer time, then fill their love tanks and give them quality time before you start. One man related this story;

There are no great men, only great challenges that ordinary men are forced by circumstances to meet.” William F. Halsey

It has become more and more common for mom’s to take on the mother and father role. Besides the high divorce rate, fathers are often away as it is sometimes more financially beneficial to do so, than to be working from home. Sometimes even the moms have to travel too.

Dads play such a significant role in the family unit, even though sometimes it feels like the family would do just fine without him – as long as they have his credit card!

It is not an easy task to be a father; juggling work pressures, financial stress, being a good husband and a role model for your children. It is quite ironic that just as a father is climbing the corporate ladder, his children are reaching adolescence and maybe his wife, menopause! No wonder there is chaos in the home.

Dr James Dobson says God gave you a child for 12 years to learn to love him before he turns into a teenager.

Well, there are a few things one can do to stay connected with your teenager. It is important to recognize the changes not only in their bodies, but also in their needs as they grow. They need to be treated as miniature adults and with the same respect you would like to receive. The best way to bond with your teenager is to have fun.

Wisdom chooses now what it will be satisfied with later on.” Joyce Meyer
Many adults do not realize that an adolescent’s FRONTAL LOBE is only fully developed somewhere between 18 and 25 years of age. They are not yet capable of making totally wise decisions. Their ability to reason is not fully developed. When alcohol is abused, that same part of the brain is affected, which is why they think they are capable of driving when everyone around them can see they are not. So when your teenager looks at you as if you are from mars, visualize a huge “L” on his forehead and say to yourself “Frontal lobe – underdeveloped.”

Notes to the Parent

Your child needs you more than you can imagine.

Maintain a sense of humour and do not take it personally. It is only a wrong choice THEY are making; it is not about you.

Story time

Parents as role models

By the time your children reach teenage years, you should have spent enough time planting seeds into their brain. We all want children to see things our way. However, there comes a time where they need to break away, find out what they believe and then make their beliefs their own.

When dealing with young teenagers in my home visits, I invite them to a round table discussion. I often start with comments like, “What do you wish you could change in this house?” and mostly I hear, “My parents shouting/fighting”. How sad.